A new report from the Institute for Strategic Dialogue (ISD) has found that digital hate and harassment against women rose rapidly after the U.S. presidential election. Sexist phrases like “repeal the 19th [Amendment]” and “get back to the kitchen” surged on platforms like X, TikTok, Facebook, and Reddit following President Donald Trump’s victory over Vice President Kamala Harris. Many of the most frequent comments involve calls for a decrease in women’s rights, while others have explicitly threatened women with sexual assault and harassment. Mentions of the statement “Your body, my choice”—a direct response to the reproductive justice movement’s slogan, “my body, my choice”—grew by over 4600 percent on X. The phrase also appears to have grown in popularity offline, with parents and students reporting groups of boys chanting it to girls in schools. One parent commented online, “Today my daughter was told three separate times on campus ‘your body, MY choice.’ The third group of boys told her to ‘sleep with one eye open tonight.’”

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    My daughters have to live in this shit hole now. I am both angry and sad that it appears we are moving backwards.

    I will fucking end someone if I hear them say this or anything like it to my daughter.

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    This started on Wednesday, almost immediately after Trump’s victory was announced. By Friday it was already being reported in grade schools because asshole parents enjoy raising asshole sons, and Trump tells people that it’s ok to be the absolute worst human being they can be.

    I have a friend who is a hard Republican. We generally don’t talk politics, but after this started last week he was posting things online being offensive towards women and POC (and the whole “illegals took my job and healthcare”) so I finally had to call him out. His response was basically that he wasn’t aware of any increased discrimination happening against women, therefore he didn’t believe it was happening. I’ve known the guy for 40 years but this may be the thing that breaks our friendship. He claims to be an advocate for people’s rights yet he is painfully unaware of the world around him.

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      Republican

      advocate for people’s rights

      You really can’t be both at the same time.

      After this election I’ve had to cut a bunch of people out of my life, even relatives. A lot of them saying such wonderful things as “trump’s just saying things, he doesn’t actually mean anything he’s saying.” And then they’d get defensive when I’d ask them why they votes for him then if he doesn’t mean anything he says.

      It’s really hard to cut people out of your life but afterwards it’s amazing realizing that you don’t need to tip toe around things that may be vaguely political (or explicitly) anymore to not start an argument.

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        People that vote for the violence against the people I love have no place in my life no matter who that person is.

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          That’s the spirit

          Family is the relationship, relatives are who you’re related to.

          Found family is better anyways.

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        Republican

        advocate for people’s rights

        You really can’t be both at the same time.

        Of course you can, you’re just missing the subtext:

        Advocate for people like me’s rights

        Right wing beliefs have always been about empowering the “I’m alright, Jack” types (I don’t know if that phrase is known in the US, but here is an explanation if not). Purely for helping the powerful stay powerful, at the expense of everyone else.

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          Republican

          advocate for people’s rights

          You really can’t be both at the same time.

          Of course you can, you’re just missing the subtext:

          Advocate for people like me’s rights

          American?

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      last week he was posting things online being offensive towards women

      he wasn’t aware of any increased discrimination happening against women

      Umm…

      Perhaps he has always posted that much misogynistic stuff so technically it isn’t an increase?

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        Hard to say for sure. He’s on Facebook so I don’t have a way to see what he posts, but my wife still has an account there and said he’s in some of the same groups as her. She’s pretty aware of what he’s posting and they’ve actually had conversations in person about the whole immigration thing. The rest… yeah I just don’t know.

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    Th 4B movement isn’t a political statement. At this point, it’s simply self-defense.

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      We have reached a great filter for society. If you are a woman and care about your rights you just need to know how a man voted to determine their value. You gotta dump if they voted for Trump.

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        I legitimately know a woman who’s divorcing her husband, finding out he was a Trump supporter was the final straw. They’ve been in a rough spot for the last year or so, he doesn’t cook/clean at all.

        She was going to leave him a year ago but tried to make it work, finding out he was a secret Trumper sealed the deal for her.

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      There is nothing wrong with being a gun owner so long as you do it responsibly. This means going to the range weekly and not just putting it in the safe after buying it.

      Handguns are there because you lack the upper body strength to fight off an attacker. 4B stops no rapist.

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        Handguns are there because you lack the upper body strength to fight off an attacker.

        That’s not what firearms are. They are killing tools. Plain and simple. Not “self-defence” tools. Killing tools. The US military does not provide it’s personel with firearms to “self-defend” themselves from rape.

        4B stops no rapist.

        How does a handgun stop a woman from marrying a rapist or ending up in a relationship with one?

        Your understanding of the term “self-defence” isn’t based on reality.

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      That already happened to like 90% of us thanks to the same cultists.

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        I’d love to see a real effort to stop genital mutilation of all babies. When the most visible time men speak up about it though is when they insert themselves into a conversation about women, it does not build sympathy for the issue.

        I mean this sincerely. If you are at all serious about stopping the genital mutilation of babies, I suggest you rethink your strategy.

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          when the most visible time men speak up about it is when they insert themselves into a conversation about women.

          That’s not true, its just the only time you notice. It was a completely relevant to the comment. Do you really think you’d respond like this if a women replied with a relevant thing that happens to them? You could have just agreed that it’s crazy how far religious zealotry.

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            The issue at hand is body autonomy. Circumcision falls perfectly in line with that and it’s an experience men have that may give them some insight into how women are feeling. Why not tackle them at once (along with anything else that comes up regarding that issue). Making people stand in line to wait for everyone to get on board with their particular grievance is hardly productive.

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            Read the fucking room. The story is about how hateful pieces of shit are gloating about women losing rights in the rapeyest way possible. Comparing it to how you’re sad that you don’t have a foreskin comes off as the whining it is.

            I think circumcision is barbaric and pointless, but no one is inclined to have sympathy for your cause in this context.

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            You could have just agreed that it’s crazy how far religious zealotry [has gone].

            And you could have followed this exact same advice.

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              When people talk about joining the Fediverse one of the main reasons mentioned for not staying is that people will jump on them over a tiny mistake. That’s what I saw your comment to be.

              Telling people “don’t ever fucking mention another issue when a women is talking” is stupid. The more comments we get on lemmy the better. The more discussion the better. The medium allows discussion to fork without derailing anything. So if people want to respond to that comment and discuss then nothing is taken away from any of the other comments in this thread and people who don’t care can just minimize that comment and all the rest in that comment thread.

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                “When people talk about joining the Fediverse one of the main reasons mentioned for not staying is that people will jump on them over a tiny mistake”

                Eh, that happens plenty on reddit.

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        Oh, then these misogynists need to watch their words and actions lest they lose even more. Eunuchs can’t forcibly impregnate anyone.

        (For clarification I am very anti infant circumcision, everyone’s body their own choices)

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    I’ve started getting cat called at night while walking my dog. I live in a red area and I dress crappy and I’m middle aged. Today I decided to change my walking schedule and location.

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    My brain is always struggling with upping a post,when the context is so vile. I just don’t understand how could this kind of angry POS people exist and the education their parents are giving them.

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      They don’t give any education. That’s it. That’s the problem. Parents don’t talk with kids and/or assume that kid will raise itself if it gets enough freedom, exact opposite happens in 90% of cases. You will understand the problem even more when you remember how many kids are bullied in school and growing frustration is a consequence.

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      They are raised in an atmosphere of negativity and hate that’s so pervasive they don’t even realize it’s a thing and that there are other options.

      I come from a white catholic family and I lived in a properly rural area up through first grade. Like I lived in a trailer and my yard bordered a farmer’s corn field. And we knew the farmer because his land was nice for my dad to hunt deer.

      The cynicism, persecution complex, and of course the casual racism & xenophobia aren’t something you are taught. They are just how the world works. It’s an assumed part of the culture and the social dynamic just like religion is.

      That shit takes root deep in your neurons, and it takes conscious effort, compassion, and self-reflection to work your way out of it. And even then, some of the subconscious programming and visceral reactions persist and require a level of ongoing mindfulness about one’s right processes and behavior.

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    They include the phrase being directed at them within schools or chanted by young boys in classes.

    Young boys are following the misogynist Pied Piper and all the parents are just letting it happen. FFS

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    2024

    The last year voicechat was enabled on my copy of Team Fortress 2.

    you don’t wanna know

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    … platforms like X, TikTok, Facebook, and Reddit.

    What are four platforms I will never use again Alex?

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      And while you’d be right to do so- make no mistake that there are posts on every social media platform with the same exact goal in mind. This one is no different.

      We are entering into an era informational noise. The signal is still there but it is fucking faint in the storm of misinformation and ai/seo bullshit it is being transmitted into.

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    I really hope to see more women buying weapons to defend themselves. Don’t be defenseless ladies.

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        Without even clicking the links; they are videos about the insane sexism and fragile masculinity in South Korea.

        Edit: i was right! Specifically they are about how god damned pathetic Korean men are. They can’t even see a self insert male protagonist in a phone game without screaming that they are being cucked. They make our incels look like the picture of healthy masculinity.

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    This is a continuation of hype trying to stir up more anger. Please don’t buy into this BS. Practically/virtually no one believes the phrase “your body, my choice.” I’d say probably 0.0001 of the population actually believe that that crap.

    Although, there are plenty of assholes who will parrot that phrase as satire just to get a rise out of people. Probably 0.01.

    You probably won’t ever get a chance to react to someone in person saying, “Your body, my choice.”

    Let’s not give this group of haters a louder voice than they deserve, and let’s focus on important things like love and tolerance.

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      There are actual statistics in this article, unlike these which I think you made up.

      You sound like those people saying that COVID was no big deal because “more people die in auto accidents”. How many people have to be affected before you deem it newsworthy?

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      Although, there are plenty of assholes who will parrot that phrase as satire just to get a rise out of people. Probably 0.01.

      In the words of Kurt Vonnegut: we are what we pretend to be.

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        a lack of an answer tells me one of two things.

        • they have not read it
        • they cannot read

        judging on their response (or lack therof), I’m going to guess they can’t read.

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      How prevalent the use of the exact phrase ‘Your body, my choice’ is irrelevant when the intent behind it is so common in other espoused rhetoric. The fact is that too fucking many people are happy to tear up a woman’s right to self determination and force women into situations that put their lives at risk. I don’t think we can ignore any rhetoric that supports or gives cover to such attacks on a woman’s autonomy.

      At this point I would not be surprised if we started seeing feminist groups becoming armed and violent. And as much as I have a disdain for political violence, I don’t think I could condemn them for doing so.

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        At this point I would not be surprised if we started seeing feminist groups becoming armed and violent. And as much as I have a disdain for political violence, I don’t think I could condemn them for doing so.

        This is crazy… misguided, hypocritical, extreme, and unsafe. Etc.

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          This is crazy… misguided, hypocritical, extreme, and unsafe. Etc.

          Just like back alley abortions. Both easily avoided by respecting the bodily and reproductive autonomy of women.

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      Practically/virtually no one believes the phrase “your body, my choice.”

      It is “practically/virtually” the ideology of pro-rape right-wingers everywhere. Why the fuck do you think they spent so much effort to crush abortion rights?