A friend of mine for around 4-5 years at this point has randomly started ghosting me completely over the past month or so… I know they’ve seen my messages and I know that they’re also autistic so they’d know I probably wouldn’t get it and I saw no signs of the friendship having any problems and yet they’ve just suddenly stopped and I have no idea what I did wrong…
Why is being a functioning social creature so damn hard?
Yeah that’s one possibility I considered and tbh is probably most likely given like, I don’t think I did anything wrong? But I’d hope not, would definitely rather I made a mistake…
You didn’t make anything wrong. Some of us don’t like to see people too often. For some, it’s fine to see people twice a year and that’s it. For others, they like to see people each week. It like a spectrum and it’s vary with time and from people to people.
I know of I have something special, I will avoid people during a certain amount of time until I gain the energy to socialize.
The second factor is what’s happening in the life. If people start a relationship, have kids, have a new job, start a new school (university, high school, etc.), go to a new club, they will have less time and energy for the friends. They will also make nes friends. This is life and people can’t do anything about it.
What I learn with time is to move on and not caring to much about what’s happening.