Media study on Gen Alpha kids show ‘purposeful participation’ over ‘mindless consumption’ of media and increased privacy consciousness over previous gen::Gen Alpha kids are protective of their personal data online and enjoy media that allows them to control their experiences with content.

  • KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    11 months ago

    I never understood Gen Z’s mindset to privacy. Caught my son telling people lots of personal info on chat roulette at one point, and had to have a long discussion. This was after already telling him about the fact that you shouldn’t just tell people online, or strangers, personal details. Never mind strangers online.

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      11 months ago

      Bruh shouldnt be lettin ur son have unlimmited internet access. Set up a bunch of blocks and limmits and once they figure how to bypass it then they can do what they please

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        11 months ago

        You ever tried to keep a kid from accessing things? My network was parent controlled out the ass, and all it really takes is going over to a friends house, or borrowing a relatives iPad, and he had free rein on the internet.

        Not to mention the school had an unrestricted network with a simple 8 character password certain students figured out.

        It’s not as simple as “just set up blocks.” 🤦🏻‍♂️

        Edit: I literally went so far as to gain access to my neighbors wifi just to block my kids devices from being able to connect to them.

          • KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            … So I should keep my 10 year old away from porn, until he goes to a friends house, at which point he has “earned the privilege” to watch porn?

            That ain’t how life works. There are things a developing brain should not have access to. One of them being porn, others being gore sites, anonymous chat sites, and more.

            • muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world
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              11 months ago

              Well what one sees when visiting other peoples places is not a reflection of you but a reflection of your childs friend. Its your job to teach your child how to handle said things not how to interpret it if your childs friends shows them something you dont want them to see you should have taught them how to handle it. Yes deny them viewing said things bit ensure they can handle it when they invenitably see it. Prepare them to make decisions themselves not what decicions to make.

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              11 months ago

              As a kid who had a dad that religiously blocked any and all use of technology, I agree the right step is to allow access to it instead of taking it all away

              This kind of made me revere videogames and the internet as a whole, using them whenever I had the chance, only realising I maybe shouldn’t be on them all hours of the day after I moved out

              Even then, it was a hard habit to break

              Restriction is a hard line to balance, and I wish you luck with it

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                11 months ago

                Oh these days are long past now. XD but thank you.

                That said, I agree with you. The restrictions I had in place weren’t a full lock down of all devices or no internet, he had access to most devices most of the time, and general access to the internet. Blocking only really took place on porn, gore, or “mature” sites like 4chan.

                I did have internet shutdown at bedtime, because he proved unable to keep himself from using his phone into the wee hours. And I did keep him from installing any app he wanted, because a) it was tied to my credit card and b) we wanted to know what social sites he was on. Games were fine.

                I suppose we could have taken his phone from him each night but honestly that was such a grueling process and if I forgot one night he’d be awake till 4 am on it.

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          11 months ago

          You’ve done nothing wrong but FYI you can block things at a device level in most cases. My little kid currently has device level restrictions as well as NextDNS restrictions. As she gets older I’ll probably look at something more strict like a provisioned profile to make it harder for her to work around those restrictions. Nothings perfect and as you said kids will find a way.

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            11 months ago

            Back when this took place, dns level stuff wasn’t very prevalent in the consumer market. Hell, even parental control on devices was non-existent. I had to MDM his phone just to gain the control I needed, and even then it wasn’t everything I needed without paying out the ass for what was essentially corporate level management of devices.

            These days I’m running a whole slew of things that could handle it easily, but at this point he’s out of the house living on his own.

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      11 months ago

      You did the right thing by guiding them when you caught them doing something dangerous,.

      But that’s your kid. You raised them. They didn’t know this because you hadn’t taught them yet. Don’t blame the year they were born.

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        11 months ago

        Looking at generations has more to it than simple ageism. Much of human behavior is a product of their culture, their surroundings. These surroundings change over time, and in the modern world, very rapidly. It’s the music, the films, books, memes, sayings, attitudes etc.

        Discrimination is definitely something we want to avoid. But completely ignoring these unique cultural influences that change year-to-year, and are a natural part of growing up, is simply foolish. Parents do not, and should not, simply bear 100% responsibility for what their kids do, when their kids are not, and should not be, complete and utter slaves.

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          I’m not rejecting the claim that generations are unique and people are influenced by what they have grown up around.

          However, we’re not talking about what kind of music they like or their attitude towards tattoos, but basic safety. A parent of a millennial might have a good reason to not understand the risks of private information on the Internet, as it was completely new when their kids were growing up. But now we know better.

          The poster might as well have said “I saw my kid cross the street without looking and almost get hit by a car. Gen z kids make no sense to me!” No, that’s your responsibility as a parent to teach them this.

          Sure maybe not 100%, but in this case case we’re taking at least 95%.

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            11 months ago

            If a kids parents say one thing, and the world says another, I do not think 95% would side with the parent. I think the number would actually be flipped.

            That said, I do agree that parents have an important responsibility to try to teach good safety practices.

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              11 months ago

              My mother was very religious. I’m very anti-religious. Part of it is likely in direct response to how religious she was because my anti-religious stance started with hating having to spend an hour in church each week or having to spend time at my Catholic school learning about religion.

              She wasn’t able to pass on arguably the most important thing to her. And while I was the only one my siblings that rebelled to the point where I refused to go to church anymore while living at home, I don’t think any of us ever go to church these days unless it’s a funeral or wedding that happens to be at a church.

              I just hope my daughter isn’t pulled in by their false promises because I’m not aggressively pushing it to the point where she would rebel against it or quietly resent it.

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                11 months ago

                It doesn’t take aggression to give someone the critical thinking tools that adulthood will require, and then strengthen them with support and faith in their ability to use them.

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        11 months ago

        Not always how it works unfortunately. I had previously sat him down and told him all of this, including things like the fact that chat roulette type sites aren’t safe. “But my friends all do it” is pretty much the only thing he said when I asked him why he thought this would be okay.

        Believe me, I’m a product of the early and mostly unregulated web, I’ve seen it at its best and worst. There was no way I was letting him access the internet without multiple talks on safety.

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        11 months ago

        Yep.

        My father schooled me on similar issues, decadesbefore the internet.

        Don’t talk about family business (both family stuff and business stuff, as he was self employed), to people. It’s none if their business.

        As kids we tend to be naïve.

    • UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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      11 months ago

      I’d also throw in some falsehoods for good measure, just to blur the trail, like how I grew up Antarctica where my 3 dads raised me to work in fintech, but I went my own way, so now I’m estranged from 2 of them