Let me preface this by saying, I am extremely fortunate to be working a fully remote job where I am able to manage my environment and generally be as I am without too much trouble from that.

It’s, of course subject to changes and the whims of my ‘leaders’ but its pretty great for now, and has been for five years.

I have been to the office exactly twice. Once to pick up my equipment, and once for a two-day all staff social that took me a week to recover from.

My new boss wants to have quarterly in-office strategic cheerleading sessions. I cannot imagine many scenarios where I will feel my disability more, and do not want to go. Not just because of the discomfort, but because I understand the setback that will come from my team seeing me spaced out and weird. Because I know I will not be able to participate the way my new boss desires, and I need to figure out how to regain the standing that I am sure to lose from this ‘day of connecting with others’

  • Arcanepotato@crazypeople.onlineEnglish
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    11 days ago

    That sounds super awful.

    I’m navigating something tangentially related: worrying about how my reduced ability to mask combined with an increasingly stressful (for everyone) work environment is reflecting on me. I want to ask for a few things for people to be understanding about, but I feel like I might have to disclose and I don’t want to do that.

    Have you disclosed at work/do you have formal accomodations?

    • TerdFerguson@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 days ago

      Oh my god, that is so stressful to be considering. I really get it… and I have disclosed at work, mainly at first due to a moral dilemma. I had a couple separate occasions where teammates were feeling a little salty and throwing the word ‘retarded’ around to express their dissatisfaction with this or that. I was able to deal with it pretty optimally, and it has stopped (at least when I’m around.) I couldn’t let that go by unchallenged and so that outted me.

      I don’t have any formal accommodations, I have requested some in the past and basically was answered with ‘figure it out yourself’.

      I am slowly moving toward the ‘IDGAF what others think of me’ attitude that I really want… its a process.