Regardless of the debate of whether admins should be legally liable for not deleting unknown child abuse digital files,

Maybe I’m wrong, but I don’t think seeing a small number of pictures is going to scar you for life. I’ve seen goatse. I’ve seen people decapitated. It’s not pleasant, and I avoid those things, but it’s not scarring.

You shouldn’t use your own experiences to make this generalisation, given that people working at agencies prosecuting pederasts often have to receive therapy or even leave the job after continued exposure.

I am disturbed that people are afraid of unused images hiding on their Lemmy server.

Don’t you think it’s logical for someone to be worried about being vulnerable to being accused of what likely is, in many legal systems, a crime?

It becomes less stupid the moment you realize Elon is angry some people are allowed not to have his bullshit forced down their throats. Then everything starts to make sense.

The pandemic got exacerbated in the US because of Trump’s dumbfuck negationist policies, but even countries with far tougher positions suffered pretty bad cases of COVID.

Wordcel phase. I love it.

…That’s disgusting.

You’re an adult. If you have the resources, and are able to maturely communicate your needs, you might as well look for a way to do it.

I know of a couple of autistic people happily married for over 10 years who, from time to time, leave the house entirely alone for either of them for almost a whole day.

I think you have larger problems than the extent of this post, but honestly what worries me the most right now is that you’re missing meals. The foundations for any person’s health is food + rest, and letting your mental issues consistently get in the way in those has a large risk of turning into a vicious cycle. If you cannot eat with your family, you should take food to your room.

I suspect that you haven’t done this because you think this will create conflict at home. If this is correct, you have to face this question: how much are you willing to let your physical health deteriorate before you decide to find a solution? Are you willing to have someone else impose their solution on you later down the line?

I’m sorry if you feel like I’m pushing you towards a situation that you instinctively feel as problematic, but you have to take some minimum care of the foundations before you fix the roof. Do not feel bad for asking for help, everyone feels at a lost sometimes through their life.

Agreed with most of your points, it’s good to point out that the medical and the social model of disability shouldn’t completely replace the other. Sometimes, in some cases, it’s clear that choosing one over the other comes simply due to the lack of better options: virtually no person with limited mobility would reject a medical solution that allowed them to walk, run and jump.

However, there are specific cases where we should be making the choice to prioritize the social model. Specifically,

I have observed people who are averse to identifying autism as a disability or acknowledge that autism can have inherent difficulties that will not be solved by societal change. This is most commonly expressed for social difficulties in interactions with neurotypical people.

Framing the issue this way implies the idea that the correct form of communication is neurotypical communication, thereby framing other forms of communication as defective or not worthy of being accepted. It is good to have the ability to communicate effectively with allistics - if you want to develop and cultivate that skill, you have my blessings and my support. But it is also good to have the ability to communicate effectively with autistics, yet your framing may contribute to drown that consideration.

At the end of the day, autistics and allistics have different preferred forms of communication, and you may be successful at masking with a communication style that doesn’t come natural to you for a day, a week, a month, years - but all of that is extra effort you’re loading on your back for the sake of not coming off as weird, and if you want to live a whole life masking under those circumstances, you’ll burn yourself out and eventually come across as strange anyway. If this is the solution we’re supposed to follow, we’re still going to end up as second-class people, who have to put in more to achieve the same and will be discriminated for not trying hard enough to be who we are not.

I mean, sure, but the OP isn’t about what kind of society would we choose to build, but about how we think things would have developed.

Ads would either be far less prevalent or change noticeable.

There would also be far stricter regulations regarding lights and noise.

There would be a narrative trope in media of awkward characters who derail communication due to their tendency to force double meanings in conversations.

There is a fair bunch autistic people whose whole identity is their job and will gladly exploit themselves. If workplaces were adapted for people on the spectrum, this would probably be far more common, which would in turn reduce the tendency for autistic people to align with antiwork philosophies.

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You can circumnavigate that issue. Instead of preparing a ration, prepare several: some steps will barely increase the total preparation time, so the proportion of time spent cooking to cooked meals will change for the better. On top of that, do something else while you cook, such as listening to an audiobook or a podcast, or talking to someone. Not only it is a more efficient use of time, but it will help you take your mind off the fact that you’re doing a chore.

Hiring practices are broken from its very basics. The vast majority of businesses consistently discriminate against people who deviate from the norm in presentation, even if the candidate meets the technical requirements or would otherwise be productive, which results in millions of people who are capable of contributing to society being pushed aside.

I have high levels of empathy and have been a people leader for many years

These aren’t incompatible with autism. There are different social skills that are learned and performed in fundamentally different ways, to the point that I’ve met people who are great speaking in public but then become clueless and red as tomatoes when they want to flirt with someone. Developing relationships organically is pretty different from public speaking, fulfilling the role of a leader in a structured activity or organization, or debating.

Another good one is migraines. Migraines are untimely if they want to be, and no one is going to go and scan your brain to look for them, so it’s perfectly plausible. They can also feel fairly similar to social burnout, so in the scale of lies it’s an incredibly mild one.

I have the tendency to do the same, but that’s because my circumstances allow me to. Your capacity to choose whether or not you’re going to interact with someone in the workplace or at school is pretty constrained in a lot of places.

It doesn’t, and it doesn’t intend to. Small talk is meant to give small doses of information about the other person, which may or may not be used in subsequent interactions. For instance, a brief exchange of comments about the state of the climate is not so much about whether it’s raining or not but to gauge the tone of the other person and their facial expressions, from which other information is inferred, correctly or incorrectly.

Which brings us to the next point: small talk sucks for autistic people not only because its utility is concealed to us, but because most allistics are going to misinterpret our nonverbal cues by comparing them to the cues of other allistic people.

By the way - there’s nothing wrong in a brief truthful answer if you a feeling a bit down, or you pulled a muscle in your neck or whatever

That’s how it should be. Unfortunately, there’s a fair amount of people who take your honesty as a direct affront to them. After all, how do I dare to say I’m not doing so well? At that point, the socially acceptable thing to do is to display some empathy for me, and they don’t like me enough to put that effort! I shouldn’t have strayed away from the script!

You have misunderstood that line. The line is linking to this tweet, which says:

Wanna know a why many “big” advocates won’t talk about ABA in a bad light?

The ABA lobby is huge. If you are a public speaker in the autism world being antiABA closes a lot of doors.

I have been uninvited to speaking events because of my views on ABA.

No regrets.

Which the article sums up as, as you quote:

This can be seen in autistic people’s stance against ABA for example, which decreases speaking opportunities for autistic advocates.

This is a true statement. If you publicly criticize ABA, certain institutions are going to close their doors for you. The article is saying that autistic people are going to criticize ABA nonetheless when doing so is in line for their values, as the paper suggests, despite the authors wacky interpretations, and I think both the writer, you and I agree that making that criticism of ABA is indeed good.