Sounds like someone could use some more shut the fuck up Friday in their life 😘
Sounds like someone could use some more shut the fuck up Friday in their life 😘
I’m not autistic, just ADHD, so please stop me if I’m invading a space where my commentary isn’t welcome.
You didn’t recognize that the girl in question was setting boundaries, which isn’t your fault, but I’ll get back to that in a minute. From her perspective, she made it clear that she wasn’t interested in you romantically, but she felt like subsequent actions still had romantic intent, like spending a lot of time near her and chatting. The way she was communicating with you wasn’t working, so she tried asking a friend to find an alternative resolution. I don’t want to get into the details of defining what “creepy” might mean to different people, but what’s important is that she felt unheard and wasn’t able to influence her environment to meet her needs. And that sucks for anyone.
Autism makes it hard to understand subtler forms of boundary setting, but you can totally learn how! I had a poor time understanding and respecting boundaries because throughout my whole childhood, my boundaries were never respected, nor were anyone’s boundaries in my childhood environment, so I never learned. And the things I implicitly learned where downright harmful. I may be projecting a bit, but I suspect you have a difficult time both setting and respecting boundaries because you haven’t been taught. Personally, I loved the book (or audiobook) Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Tawwab. It walks through a bunch of conversation examples regarding setting boundaries, which my autistic brother said is super helpful.
https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095
In your HAProxy config (like in this example), it’s checked from top to bottom. So your top-most frontend case should be the one that checks for the special keyword case. Then, if it doesn’t match the keyword, HAProxy will continue going down the list until it finds a frontend that does match. So your second frontend should match for everything, because if it doesn’t find a match, HAProxy shows an error
Cool, I think that first link will work for you. Then you can just ‘redirect’ for the no-keyword case: https://www.haproxy.com/documentation/haproxy-configuration-tutorials/http-redirects/
Remember, SSL/HTTPS does encrypt the URL path, so if the final website requires HTTPS, your proxy will need to have its certificate trusted by your clients
Maybe have two cases:
For the (matched keyword) case, something like this: https://serverfault.com/questions/729232/reg-exp-for-url-in-haproxy
For the (random routing) case, something like: https://www.haproxy.com/blog/haproxy-configuration-basics-load-balance-your-servers
I am a little confused on your question, though. It sounds like you maybe want 3 cases? Can you try wording it differently?
Generally unique request IDs have to be generated by the client that sends the request. If the client doesn’t generate an ID, you’re probably out of luck. That said, do you have information about the client you’re expecting to call your Squid cache? One unofficial, but common place for clients to put a request ID is in the header “X-Request-ID”
This reminded me of something my partner, who’s AuDHD (I’m just ADHD), sent me a while back. I don’t like the term “gifted” because it’s not very meaningful, so I’ve been calling the 3rd circle “hyper connected”.
https://tendingpaths.wordpress.com/2022/12/12/updated-autism-adhd-giftedness-venn-diagram/
I think it’s reasonable that you chose that title based on the email header, and I also think it’s very irresponsible of haveibeenpwned to send out an email with that subject line. They absolutely should know better.
“Breached” implies that sensitive data, like payment details, private communication, or physical addresses, were leaked. Instead, this is just semi-public stuff like email/username/name. Maybe a better title would be “15M Trello users have been identified (name/email)”
Maybe sort by “date” instead of date & site?