[email protected] That’s not actually what anyone has said. They said that NTs subconsciously use context clues and fill in gaps, making assumptions about what you’re asking if it’s unclear to them. No one has said they’ll undoubtedly infer that you mean something else.

There’s a big gap between the two.

You seem to be inferring what others are saying, and that inference differs from what they’ve actually tried to communicate.

[email protected] So, believe it or not, “would you recommend this product” isn’t generally a proxy question. They’re actually trying to determine if you might be a a marketing vector, and/or priming you to recommend the product to others.

[email protected] > Why is this even associated with autism specifically?

It isn’t, exclusively at least. But autistic people seem to be targeted at a fairly high rate by Cluster B folks, thanks in no small part to our tendency to take people at face value and trust people when they say they think/believe/will do things, so it’s a common shared experience among autistics.

FiniteBanjo This is why you’re not supposed to swallow the RHNB.

Angryhumanoid

> Do you claim that people being repeatedly interrupted in conversation with others only happens to autistic people

No. And neither does OOP.

> or happens more frequently to autistic people

No. And neither does OOP.

> or that it happening is “harder” on an autistic person than it is on neurotypicals

No. And neither does OOP.

Now, did you jump into this thread just to Well, akshually, or did you have a real point that’s of interest to the rest of the class? Because my issue here is that you seem to want to make the discussion about your disruptive smug fuckery, and think having that pointed out in any way makes the pointer an asshole.

Which makes you a colossal dickhead. And a troll.

Go back to harassing the goats on your bridge.

[email protected] This. There’s some sort of flow and cadence they lock on to, and seem to know when to give way and when to take over. There might even be body language they’re reading to know when to jump in and when to yield. I’ve watched it happen at work for years now, where my pod of coworkers will be discussing an issue, and they all just speak seamlessly, one person’s sentence sending and the next person’s beginning like they had coordinated. Meanwhile, I’ll be sitting there waiting for everyone to stop and give a clear signal that there is room to add my own thoughts, and the space never comes.

Usually my manager puts the breaks on the discussion to say “Kichae, it looks like you have something you want to add”. Or, I just stop waiting for an opportunity and start talking over people, and I’m the largest and loudest guy in the room, so they stop.

[email protected] No. I’m not upset at all. Why do you choose to read my comment as I were? I thumbed my nose at someone who dripped in with nothing to contribute other than being a jerkass prick, but that’s different from being upset.

Are you supporting the little whiny one?

Angryhumanoid Why? What have I done that is assholeish, other than point out that there might be a reason these posts keep coming up?

Whining about them seems like awfully fucking dickhead behaviour, though.

Angryhumanoid The autistic experience of being told the thing that happens to you and that feels especially bad or frustrating is normal, so STFU about it. As if finding shit everyone around you sees as normal insufferable isn’t part of the autistic experience.

[email protected] > find a neurolospicy friend group. Immediately. Go to where you think you’ll will want to hang out, find a neurolospicy group, and force you way in. best thing I’ve ever done in my life.

It should be noted, this trick doesn’t work if the group is all extroverted ADHD-havers.

[email protected] There’s a vast, vast gulf between “life is not imbued with inherent meaning” and “I just don’t see the point in anything”. Nihilism, as a world view, isn’t generally crippling. It just boils down to “this is what this is, and nothing more”.

You don’t sound like a nihilist, you sound deeply depressed. You can be a nihilist and depressed, but what you’re expression sounds much more like depression rather than nihilism.

My guess would be, because there are many more people with strong autistic traits out there than there are with diagnoses, thanks to autism, medically, being a disorder rather than just a ‘neurotype’, and the bar to be labelled with a disorder can be rather high, and also that you are probably mostly having your meaningful or significant interpersonal interactions with people who have high levels of traits that are similar to your own neurotype.

So, a couple of things to keep in mind:

• ADHD and Autism are fairly closely related, and can have significant overlaps in how they present. Special interests, collections, and knowledge cultivation are not uncommon among people with either condition.
• Repetitive gestures can be very small things – I rock gently, squish my toes, tap my feet, crack my knuckles, and rub my thumb along my fingertips , and I do all of these things without thinking about our noticing them. I wasn’t aware I did any of these things until others called me out on them.
• Rituals are often incredibly informal, and amount to “I like schedules”, “I like plans”, or even “I have strong preferences”. What things are are very difficult to identify by yourself, because they are just everyday life to you. It’s not like OCD-style rituals.
• The reasons why you have difficulty doing things matter in things like this. Do you find doing your taxes painfully boring? Do you find them overwhelming? And if so, is it because you have too much on your plate?
• Sensory issues are a cornerstone of ASD diagnoses, and you don’t mention having any. If you were to explore that option, it would come up. The issues do not have to be in any way crippling – at least, not all of the time – but they need to be there.
• Social impairment is another cornerstone, and remains central to the actual diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder, which you also don’t mention. This is the thing that usually most directly causes disordered lives (though the sensory issues can cause real impairments, too).

wendyz Reddit has a real problem with being built around oversized, hyperactive spaces, and sround tyrany of the majority thanks to their up/downvote mechanics. This resulte in a space where being early to a discussion and then dunking on someone or on some unpopular strawman gets you not just attention, but also a metacurrency that grants you access to more “discerning” spaces.

When communities become too big, thy just become voids to scream into, because no one is reading the comments. They’re just trying to get noticed. That turns them into deeply toxiv plates that turn on anyone trying to have an actual discussion about things.

[email protected] I have a masters degree in physics, and I just straight up don’t do mental math, and never have. Math is for pencils and notepads. And I love pencils and notepads!

[email protected] I’M NOT YOUR BRO, PAL!

[email protected] That’s amazing! But the question remains: Can you sail an oil tanker through it?

[email protected] Something something Mankind, somethibg something BY GAWD HE’S BROKEN IN HALF!

Have a nice day!

lime! Yes! This is the kind of thing I’d be OK with. Unfortunately, I’m seeing people on social media just post about highly anticipated rumours being announced by companies and whatnot, which serves no purpose other than to get people who haven’t looked at the calendar excited about something they’ve been quietly hoping for for a long time, and it just seems to mean and unkind.

We’re celebrating Hobbit Day today! It’s supposed to be on the 25th, but today is the closest weekend day. We’re having breakfast, second breakfast (we know about second breakfast), elevensies, brunch, luncheon, afternoon tea, dinner, and supper.