I am on and off have been for years
Oof. I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
I had one session dedicated to how investigating root causes for trauma, all the way back to the very moment it started, wasn’t necessarily all that helpful. My therapist was right, of course - the present-day triggers and mindfulness are where to focus - but for a heated moment, I had a very hard time agreeing. Inside the same session I was also beside myself in disbelief that I actually argued with my own therapist without a second thought.
Describes recent traumatic event that’s taking over my ability to focus or think clearly about anything.
“Have you eaten today”
Intellectualizing your feelings is part of the problem
Thanks I’m cured?
(not in an offensive way. I seriously don’t understand what to do with this. Should I just stop being like this? How? This goes on and on)
Oh fuck. Thanks for that rabbit hole.
When you feel bad, just don’t. That’ll be $200.
Listen, it may be part of the problem but it’s not the cause of the problem so it’s allowed to remain until the root cause is found. Then when we pull that out we’ll take all the parts with it.
Obviously.
He would go on to do himself no favors, intellectualize his feelings and talk himself out of any real resolution, forever.
The root cause is you’re a biological being and feelings kept your ancestors safe but now you live in captivity with a bunch of rules and feeling aren’t made for that
Oh shit
Well it’s all of the problem
Got stunlocked by that question when I started crying during a therapy session. Therapist noticed that I choke up so badly while crying that I can’t speak and just wanted me to notice it too. “Does it feel like you can’t share what’s going on inside you because nobody’s going to listen?”
Fuck all the way off. That was so helpful but so so so painful to recognize.
That sounds like they were doing their job correctly then, yes?
ugh, I hadn’t put such succinct words to it but I experience the same thing, makes talk therapy really difficult. There’s the part of me that feels like if I’m crying I need a REALLY GOOD reason for it and if I don’t, I need to stfu so whatever I say in the moment isn’t thrown back at me. I guess it all boils down to trusting someone else in a vulnerable moment… so fucking hard.
I have never been able to answer that well. I don’t have locational feelings as far as I know. I don’t get it.
It made more sense to me once I realised I was muscle guarding. The body reacts to emotions as much as you do. For example, I used to be hunched a lot and have terrible posture because I didn’t feel tall. So I worked on allowing myself to slowly stretch out and be tall. There were various points in my body I was holding unnecessary tension, and I felt much better once I relaxed them and let go of my past.
There was no emotional release or crying, but it made more sense from that perspective. “The body keeps the score” and all that
It’s not possible to not have “locational feelings” because they are physically located in your body.
But you probably have trauma that would rather you die than feel them. So you need someone who can help you at a high level.
It’s not possible to not have “locational feelings” because they are physically located in your body.
Yeah, in the brain. Which is famous for not having pain/temperature/etc receptors of it’s own
What? Where did you go to Dr school?
YouTube?
Lmao, you’re not gonna find a doctor that believes in feelings, unless there’s a pill for them.
Had that question in one session and honestly: it helped me a lot!
I’m over rationalizing my emotions to the point where it’s difficult to actually feel or even properly differentiate how they feel. Trying to shut down my head and actually listening to what’s going on in my body is a good exercise. I can now properly distinguish fear from anger which subsequently changed how I view myself (I’m not vicious, angry, mean or aggressive all the time, I’m not like my abusers!).
Sometimes therapy feels weird and it’s creeping me out but I never regretted playing along and trusting in my therapist. But I also chose her very specifically.
One of the most important thing I learned in therapy is that feelings don’t happen in my brain.
Yeah; it wasn’t until years after I left therapy that I discovered that the body’s reaction to an emotion actually performs a vital part of processing that emotion, and you should try and notice it where you can.
And that it’s actually really important to talk about those feelings
Literally me 4 weeks ago. Finished my explanation and therapist said “yes, that’s interesting and possibly true, you didn’t talk about your emotions at all”
Yes. It’s pretty useful. My therapist is also autistic and it’s really helpful to be able to communicate in my natural way and not be misunderstood.
Wait, I have a body? What nonsense is that? And I should have refilled water regularly? Why isn’t there a manual?
You are a nervous system contained within a space suit made of meat.
Also unclench your jaw and drink some water.
He said, ignoring his own advice
Yes! A manual! Fuck yes. Where is this thing. Needs to have a tl;dr and a cheat sheet simplified version and an ELi5 to every theme in the back. Plays an audio track through your molars, if you buy the pro version and upgrade.
Believe it or not, I’m walking on air, never thought I could feel so free…
I highly recommend “The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy” by Steph Jones, cleared up a lot of things for me
Yeah been doing it for a few years and still struggle with this question or even being able to answer how I feel to be honest. It has still been really helpful though
Do you want to know the source of the arrow or do you want to pull it out? Because you can do the first part after.
Having been in therapy, this describes precisely none of my therapy. I’m feeling pretty lucky
Where in your body do you feel lucky?
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I want to be but, well, Japan isn’t great for that (particularly in English where I can speak about things with a lot more nuance and comfort). Add to that NHI doesn’t cover therapy, just psychiatry.
