Tinder Select is only available to some of the dating app's "highly engaged and active" users, and it'll cost about $6,000 a year, Bloomberg reported.

Tinder thinks some people will pay almost $500 a month for more ‘efficient ways to find connections’ with its ‘VIP’ plan::Tinder Select is only available to some of the dating app’s “highly engaged and active” users, and it’ll cost about $6,000 a year, Bloomberg reported.

  • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networkEnglish
    18·
    1 year ago

    This is good advice.

    Also a lot of people really drop the ball when they do get a match. Some hot advice because a lot of people out there seem to need help.

    • ask questions. If someone asks you “did you see the Barbie movie?” do not just reply yes or no. That’s not how this game works. Try “No, but I heard it was really good. What did you think?”. Open ended questions are better. Imagine you are playing catch. Their question is the ball. You caught it. Nice! Now fucking throw it back.

    • ask people out on a date*. do not ask them to come directly to your home. Dates do not have to be expensive. Drinks, coffee, snacks in the park, whatever. So long as it’s public and lets you actually talk, you’re good.

      • do not message for days before asking out. People are capricious and they’re going to forget about you if you’re just a blip in tinder. If you are too nervous to ask someone out, delete the app until you’re ready to date.
      • the above is from the perspective of a man who doesn’t date men. I can’t speak to other experiences as confidently.

    • put stuff you want to talk about in your profile. Do not leave your profile blank. Do not be “clever” by writing “no one reads this” or “I’m really two lizards in a coat.” Your profile is your ad copy. Your profile holds your story hooks. Give the other person something to work with. “I love my friends” is not going to start a good conversation.

    • johnthedoe@lemmy.mlEnglish
      9·
      1 year ago

      Exactly. Assuming people interested in this are guys. Dating apps are a women’s market and that’s just facts. Because of such their profile can be completely trash and they’ll get matches.

      For guys you need to put the work in. I met my wife on tinder (ages ago before paid tier even was introduced). It was after a lot of trial and error on the app.

      Your profile needs to show who you are in the best light, and really importantly to show you’re not dangerous

      • Wisely@lemm.eeEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        That last part is really 90% of what it is. Women don’t know if a man is going to rape them, have anger issues, drug them, be a serial killer, etc. There’s also pregnancy where you can run off and STDs. You need to be worth the risk and feel safe.

        While for the most part a man just has to worry about if she will be crazy or not like them, STDs.

    • datavoid@lemmy.mlEnglish
      0·
      1 year ago

      Great analogy, and it’s honestly funny (and sad) that it needs to be said.

      I’m male and have never considered myself to be attractive, but when I was on dating sites I had no problem blocking the occasional matches I got after a few one word answers.

      In my opinion, one person shouldn’t be responsible for keeping the other person entertained and engaged… there needs to be some back and forth.

      One more tip for you terrible daters out there - stay off your phone unless you’re specifically showing the other person something.